During the last year and a half of recovery, while seeing clients and dealing with the challenges of life, I have been taught many things. I have learned to put much of what I teach people to a more advanced personal practice. I get to make different choices.
I am shown enlightenment or spiritual awareness is accepting what is, is. This is often accompanied by the notion that one will have no more troubles and we will be happy. But the truth is; the more psychologically and spiritually enlightened a person ,the more they dance through the daily struggles of being human, creating an atmosphere for a deep joy to creep into our lives.
The notion of daily happiness got mixed up in here somewhere. It is not joy rather is a state of the current personality at a given moment. It is or can be influenced by the notion of ‘Fake it until you make it’ as we often see in the new age movement, but there is not depth of character. An example of this is when I see so called enlightened Individuals put on a happy face they are riddled with micromanagement of their personal well being. Happiness is fleeting. Joy is a state that sustains. It brings us to a state where we no longer have the need to micromanage rather we move through life’s issues with peace.
Quotes by an unknown author and Charles Dickens;
Happiness is a choice of attitude. Resolve to choose gratefulness over regret until joy becomes your default setting.
Charles Dickens said it so simply:
Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.
Make no mistake. This simple choice is your emotional magic wand.
The state of being human is inherently unsafe. Our cultures are formed around this fact. It is self-perpetuating since our bodies are going to die. In an effort to tame ego our schools and in our family teach us we are not good enough. This is a major portion of how our default personality is formed.